Tag Team Dating

Last weekend, while out dancing, I came across an older gentleman.
He is nice looking, appears to be stable and worthy of a nice lady.
I don't know that I'm that lady, mainly because of the age.  There is probably a 30 year difference.
Though I must admit, not too long ago, I was considering dating someone who is similiar in the age range as this man.  However I know this man a bit better and enjoy his company.
It does depend on enjoying the person's personality.  Not that I've just realized this.
Anyways, a girlfriend of mine told me recently (and I thought "she's my MOM's Daughter") that unless their give her the "weird" vibe, she goes out with whoever asks her.
And then a nice fella asked her, and she admitted to me...she hedged around it as she believes she is recovering from a bad break.  Though she did go out with the guy.
I told her, this guy would be more perfect for my mom.  Similiar in age, my mom likes to dance, she's funny and holds a good conversation.
My friend responded, that is a reason to go out with a guy, because he may be perfect for someone you know (if not for you)!

SCREW IT!

And HOW THE HELL .... I've done it all.  I've given it every fucking flipping shot I know...
Gone to church; he isn't at my church.  There is no single, good looking man with a personality of AGE there, that can afford a decent meal. 
Been a Big Sister in Big Brothers Big Sisters.
Have volunteered.
Have danced at the Legion until it closed.
Have bought a cowboy.
Have tried online dating.
Have not been interested.
Have met a guy in person, had him kind of on the hook and then he swam off without so much of a glance back.
Have asked a guy out.
I have worked in a social situation.
I have asked friends...
I GIVE UP.  I don't know how to do this.

24 and 42

There's a difference on many levels, different ways between 24 and 42.

At 24, if you met a fella that's been married for 15 years (even), and has only been divorced for 2 years...ya, I'd advise that you watch out.  Give him MORE time.  Especially if there are children involved.

However, if you are 42, and you meet the same fella.... different game.  You aren't likely to stay home watching "his kids" while he goes out with the guys.  You aren't likely to be at his beck and call.

So enjoy.  Live.  Why not?  you basically have, nothing, to lose.

The Boy

So I asked the boy out; he turned me down.  Though I wouldn't say he said, "NO," as in never.  I'm taking it as "no, not this time."

Sadie Hawkins

There IS a purpose for Sadie Hawkins afterall.
Hated it in High School.
Only went once, and that's because I was "dating" the guy I went to Home Coming with that very year.
It is so that when you are an adult and feel the need to take matters into your own hands, you know that it is allowed on some level.
Men probably practice on women, boys on girls, that they aren't THAT interested in - who maybe they think "no way" will she say yes.... whereas I, have, at least, practiced what I was going to say, to my female friends.  Of course that isn't necessarily a TRUE thing, because they are, afterall, women. 
There is no fail-proof way.
Just got to put on your big girl panties and go for it.
Or ring the doorbell at the Fire Hall at 7:30pm on Halloween night when it is raining out.

Play and Discard

I am wondering what Play and Discard would do if I walked up to him and kissed him.  After which, of course, commenting that I wondered if he kissed as good as he looked?

I know he's arrogant, my friend confided that to me, as well.
He's a player.

It'd be the time that I stumbled in my heels, I'm sure.  :) 

Still.
Have that confidence.
Find out.

Because how many times have I actually been  - well - surprised and horrified at the same time.  Surprised that they maybe did or didn't kiss all that well, and that their Johnson was either TOO DAMN BIG (yes you read that correctly) or didn't seem to really want to work without A LOT of encouragement from them?

Nothing like texting  your girlfriend, who doesn't text, was probably OUT OF RANGE when you texted anyways..."HELP!! How do I handle a Johnson that I can barely ...well..fit in my mouth?"  And of course, I was slightly out of range too - in the Crazies out by Big Timber, MT.

Or the other guy that wanted me to mouth his Johnson and it laid their limp.  And it hadn't been fully used.  Something about that was just not a turn on.  Need a response here!  Warning Warning!  The sirens went off in my head, but not like "stars," not like "I can't wait."  More like... WARNING!!  Bad ju ju.

So maybe a kiss will decide whether I want to spend any more time on my ga ga play thing?

Play And Discard

Well there's a few men on the horizon, though one... unfortunately, is a Play and Discard.  Of course he is, I told my friend.  If he wasn't, he would be OFF the market.  Though old dogs can learn new tricks, a fella can change, or find someone that delights their socks off, and they want to change for them.

I believe that to be true, though I don't hold my breath that its COMMON.

So I'm a little gaga over a fella that is clearly in the "Play and Discard" game.  And can I hack it?  Probably.  Unlike most games, even knowing the rules to Play and Discard prior to going in, doesn't necessarily help.  He at least gives me another reason to keep my running shoes on regularly and used.  Got to look great in case I "run" into him.