I always thought the saying "You marry the 1st time for love and the 2nd time for money" was because you didn't really get love in the 1st marriage so you might as well go for money the 2nd time around.
I now KNOW that it isn't the reason. You marry the 2nd time for money because you have NOTHING from the 1st marriage. You don't have love and you don't have money. And you can live without love from a "partner" (as long as you have love from family and friends), but you cannot live without money.
This ride of finding a mate, has been interesting, to say the least. I have met a few men that actually want a partner that can just "get up and go" whenever HE is. Get up and travel, vacation, etc.
I've recently started talking to Sailor. He's looking for the same things most of us are looking for in a mate: Mature yet fun, Nice yet naughty, Financially in Good Standing, Fun, Responsible, Fit, etc. He doesn't want to be someone's "sugar daddy." He, as many men in his age bracket, have been "left" to find a lot of women that have let their looks and body go to heck and are financially broke.
WE will be having a discussion on this matter. While I am not one of those women left with children to raise on my own, I didn't divorce with a lot of money. I didn't get a lot from putting in hard work and love into a 14 year marriage to a rancher. I've done all I can to stay fit, and its been a struggle. The last 6 years of my life, have been a struggle. I've done the best I can, as I suspect a lot of women have. And its a proven fact that women make less than men do in the conventional way of work.
So if we marry for money the 2nd time around, there is a reason. It isn't that we don't want love, it isn't that we want to be money-hungry....its just that we've been hungry for a long time, and in the end, love doesn't pay the bills.
We, too, would like love and money in the 2nd marriage. We'd like a responsible, mature, loving, fun, fit mate in our lives, as well.
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