Pinedale Games

A year ago, I met a guy, that seemed almost too good to be true, yet he isn't out of the country (as far as I know) and I turned him down when he asked me to meet him in Riverton.

I turned him down for many reasons, the primary one being, I didn't know what he wanted.  Were we meeting for sex?  And why Riverton?  Could he not go a bit FURTHER out of his range... I realize that the place shouldn't matter, though there is ...well, it was quite a drive for me.

As soon as I told him no, he kind of fell away.  Really should have been and in a sense it was, my FIRST clue.

I never have heard from him in that same sense.

However, throughout the year, every few months, he would "check me out," or in the real world, "wink" at me.  And I did, back. 

And then I took the bull by the horns and commented on a recent picture of him.  And he responded.  I was rather surprised that he had. 

Not only did he respond, he created a newer profile for himself on the site we first met on, that matched the 2nd site we are on together and contacted me.  The newer profile on the 1st site reflects things that I commented were conflicting - he's looking for a relationship versus "dating" and "looking for a commitment."

Eh, he's not looking for either. 
He's a player.

How do I know, why do I think this?

I asked him "Do you want to call me and get to know me better, or what?  I am a grown woman looking for an honest,  fun and interesting companionship, not a cat looking for a play thing."

I heard nothing from him.

Other signals of a player:
1) his YM "handle"....has "please and you" is in it ....says PLAYER all over it
2) while he is on call on some weekends, those weekends, he's online...trolling dating sites, ALL weekend.  I wondered last year, am  I doing something wrong by not being online all weekend?
*  No, I have a life.
** My girlfriend said, "when I lived in the middle of no-where and spent the whole weekend doing nothing, I wasn't online all the time.
*** My girlfriend's response was "He has NO LIFE."    

Go to the library, watch t.v. (is that any better?), read, learn to knit.... help someone else.  Just because you are "on call" doesn't mean you have to sit around the house.

It does put some things into perspective; he threw out to me, "you know you aren't going to come see me," and yet when I threw it back at him, he had excuses...he was on call.  So?  Can you not go throw the frisbee in the park?  I won't say I didn't question it last year, alas, I made "excuses." 

Nope.....and I will be all the better for it.