The Reversal

Last night a couple friends and I went out, dancing.
A great band was playing in town.
Lots of people were there, plenty of them I did not know.
One man, I've met.....
And the hot crush. ....


James.
He is the one man, I've met.
I met him through The Cowboy, who, was there as well.
I don't actually dislike James, in fact one evening I thought he could be, maybe fun?
After last night, who knows.
And now, I may never know.

James.
He found my friend and I.
We didn't want him.
I think mostly, because with him, comes the Cowboy.
And this cowboy pretty much thinks TOO highly of himself.


James.
I think he is the Cowboy's boss.
They also live together.
It's hard to decipher if they "like" each other - 
It doesn't matter, though for some reason, it does.


James.
Mostly when I see him coming, I think "oh shit."
I guess I actually find him boring.
And maybe a bit like the Cowboy.
It's ALL about him.


Did he once ask me, last night, how I was?
What I liked to do?
No.
He talked non-stop about how he accidentally spit in this girl's face.
And then when she came back from "drying off," he apologized to her endlessly for 20 minutes.
Tried to explain, why...how it happened.
It doesn't really matter in a sense... it's one of those things.
Finally, as a girl who was standing there, who had had him ask "why are girls attracted to 'players,'" I said, "enough.  You've apologized, now MOVE ON.
He replied, "You didn't get spit on."
No, I didn't.  But move on.
I wasn't wrong.


Then later, he's talking to Bill.
My friend says, "Ask Bill to dance."
And I do.
And Bill says "Thank you."
I said, "No Problem."


And after that.
James.
He has me somewhat cornered.
I can't walk away without being rude.
Ha.
He is at it again.
Why does your friend only like short guys?
(I wanted to say, maybe its because she is short)
(I don't know.  Ask her)
(What? She dated ONE GUY, this summer for 2 weeks and she likes short guys???)
(Is all of this stuff about why do girls like guys like The Cowboy, or is it you have a crush on my friend?)
None of these () things do I say, partly because I just want to get away.
I don't know exactly what makes him "unlikable" 


He's boring?
He doesn't shut up - this is definitely one of them.
He seems to simply have no idea how to behave in public  (no social skills, from what I've experienced).


So finally I do escape.
I go get water.
And my only out is through the restaurant's kitchen, and the front desk door.
I take it.
Maybe a little more drama than necessary.
But really.
I'm here to have fun.
I'm here to dance.
To flirt.
To have fun.
I don't want to hear, "I'm not trying to brag myself up, but I like to fish and hunt.  If you get to know me, you will learn that I am a funny guy.  I can't dance but I can sing.  I sing at karokee on Wednesday nights (wow, I just remembered THAT as I typed).  I'm not going to tell a girl she looks good in a fight cage (huh?)."

After I bail, I find my friend.  
She simply says, "its because he won't shut the fuck up."
And so I find him, and I tell him that very thing.
And what does he do??
HE FIGHTS WITH ME, ABOUT IT.
What?
I have to go dance, to get away.
The rest of the night, he doesn't talk.
He glares, he ignores.
I feel kind of bad.
At the same time, he asked.  He pressured.  He wouldn't leave it alone. He couldn't just be fun, he had to keep asking me, keep at me.

It feels odd to have a guy ask a girl "why do girls like guys that want nothing? That are just playing you."

There are so many answers to that question, and none of them are going to suffice this guy.
Bottom line, it really depends on where YOU ARE in your life.