After 3 dates with 3 different men; 2 of them great dates, the other...blah.. I am "getting" that when you are in the presense of at least a good candidate (not necessarily THEE one), communicating and enjoying ones-self as well as the other person, just happens. It isn't forced, it isn't all that difficult. It just is.
With both of the 2 dates that I've had that have been lots of fun, I was just me (which isn't to say that I wasn't with my "blah" date) - and it clicked. We connected. We talked, we laughed, we had fun. Whether we see each other again, don't know. Definitely closer to a yes, than a no.
Whereas with the blah date, merely talking was difficult. And all my "moves" - even though they WERE NOT meant to be anything other than me adjusting in my chair - were noted and I felt more uncomfortable. There wasn't anything that I WANTED to talk about with him because I just knew I wasn't interested in him.
SO its easier to just be who you are, when you are in the presense of a "righter" person for you rather than someone who isn't the right person. And all relationships take work, especially the GREAT ones. And why not put your hard work into the right person, rather than someone you wish you could have, but is the wrong person?
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