BAGGAGE!

I understand what people are saying when they don't want "baggage" in a relationship; though the truth of the matter is, we all have baggage of some kind.  Find yourself a person without it, and I seriously doubt you'll find a person. 

Hell, even a dog,  has baggage.

Just this past week, a friend of mine met a rather good looking, working, fella.  He likes to dance and CAN dance; he took her to dinner, took her hiking, and maybe...just maybe, he will call this week, as he said he would.

Two issues, though, have surfaced.   The first, I don't understand very well - I just know that it has to do with past baggage of her's that she has no control over.  It isn't that she hasn't - or isn't trying - to move on from; it's that the person with whom she was involved with, may "act" up finding out that she is moving on.

The other issue, that stumbled me, is that he has children.

Given his age, I wonder - how many children? was he married to the mother of his children? or is it mothers? I absolutely hate having to wonder these things.

When I was first divorced (no children), I was more willing to be a step-mom.  Ah, I'm still willing.  However, my friend is not as old as I am - and she is looking for a truly significant relationship and frankly, as her friend, I don't want her to have to deal with "children" from a previous relationship (or relationships).  I don't. 

There will be enough baggage on both sides, without children.

Harsh of me? perhaps, given that I love children and would embrace the possibility of my own, should I remarry someone that wants children.  Perhaps, given that I would embrace someone elses children, as my own. 

Harsh of me? considering that men have told me how they don't want to deal with "drama," or "baggage," and yet, don't they ....by their mere existance, carry it with them?  You don't get to 35 years of age without "some" baggage.

If you don't want baggage, live alone.  And don't come out.