The LOW Down

The low down...kind of like oral sex, what they don't tell you....

Not only from my date this weekend, but also from other men whom I've had recent conversations from, the low down on online dating is that it is difficult. No way around it. And one might think to have ALL these people in front of you, WOW...like picking the perfect peach.

Nope. You wink, you send emails - they don't respond. They don't even act like you've been there. You don't know. And then you go to check them out again, and they aren't there. Their profile is gone. For whatever reason, they no longer are online. Maybe they got married, most likely they didn't. They just stopped paying for the service.

Or you meet them, and they are NOTHING like they said they were. Which, I have to say, I have experienced that.... more times than not.

Tonight I was YM with a guy I met on a site; he lives rather close to me. I think he is okay, I'm not at the RED Flag point, even though he asked me if I would FACEBOOK Friend him so that he could have more friends on Farmville.

No.... for many reasons. One being, that we haven't met. Two being, really? Thats NOT why I have friends on Facebook. He wasn't mad that I said no, nor did he want me to be mad. I wasn't. Just sort of re-thinking this maybe maturity level?

Its not that I have a problem with people playing Farmville or any other game online. I don't. But you don't become friends on Facebook just for more points.

I did talk to Joe, from online today. He bit the dust; I don't know that he knows it. It isn't that I don't understand where he is coming from (at 50) of how if you get into a relationship with someone who doesn't have children, you don't have that to contend with. I get that. But he was surprised at how many of us women would accept children, whereas men might not. Again, though, he's never been married and there is a reason. I even told him that; I told him that had he really wanted to get married by now, he would have. He was either too busy building his business or something... personally I think he was too busy on himself (thinking he was Joe Great) to make the necessary gives and takes for a relationship.

I am having dinner with ... Dave? on Thursday. I am actually only having dinner with him: 1) because my friend (who met her husband online) told me that I should consider people I am initially NOT at all interested in - which I don't disagree with, and 2) he's persistent, and 3) my other friend advised me to let a man buy me dinner. I can't say that I am uninterested in him, though he certainly isn't in my top 5.

The main thing in all this, to maintain my level head (which my Powell friend would tell you, I don't have one)

And the old men in my life, in which there are two - two men that I have not been physical/sexual with and NEVER plan on being either with - though I know they like me in some degree.... they probably both sense something is up with me (since I was gone for the weekend - and had a great time), but its none of their business. I have led neither of them on, I have been upfront with them, and finally, I am not going to settle because of THEIR feelings.