SCREW IT!

And HOW THE HELL .... I've done it all.  I've given it every fucking flipping shot I know...
Gone to church; he isn't at my church.  There is no single, good looking man with a personality of AGE there, that can afford a decent meal. 
Been a Big Sister in Big Brothers Big Sisters.
Have volunteered.
Have danced at the Legion until it closed.
Have bought a cowboy.
Have tried online dating.
Have not been interested.
Have met a guy in person, had him kind of on the hook and then he swam off without so much of a glance back.
Have asked a guy out.
I have worked in a social situation.
I have asked friends...
I GIVE UP.  I don't know how to do this.

24 and 42

There's a difference on many levels, different ways between 24 and 42.

At 24, if you met a fella that's been married for 15 years (even), and has only been divorced for 2 years...ya, I'd advise that you watch out.  Give him MORE time.  Especially if there are children involved.

However, if you are 42, and you meet the same fella.... different game.  You aren't likely to stay home watching "his kids" while he goes out with the guys.  You aren't likely to be at his beck and call.

So enjoy.  Live.  Why not?  you basically have, nothing, to lose.

The Boy

So I asked the boy out; he turned me down.  Though I wouldn't say he said, "NO," as in never.  I'm taking it as "no, not this time."

Sadie Hawkins

There IS a purpose for Sadie Hawkins afterall.
Hated it in High School.
Only went once, and that's because I was "dating" the guy I went to Home Coming with that very year.
It is so that when you are an adult and feel the need to take matters into your own hands, you know that it is allowed on some level.
Men probably practice on women, boys on girls, that they aren't THAT interested in - who maybe they think "no way" will she say yes.... whereas I, have, at least, practiced what I was going to say, to my female friends.  Of course that isn't necessarily a TRUE thing, because they are, afterall, women. 
There is no fail-proof way.
Just got to put on your big girl panties and go for it.
Or ring the doorbell at the Fire Hall at 7:30pm on Halloween night when it is raining out.