There are times, I think, it would pay to be a smoker - ya, who knew? Or at least a pretend smoker, one that was having problems getting her cigarette to light!
A case in point - the other night as I was leaving the bar, leaving my girlfriend's birthday party, I overheard a man on his cell phone. Outside. He said something to the fact of, "do not EVER send my wife another text message like that again, or I'll...." Unfortunately I didn't hear the rest. I kind of didn't want to, and it is times like that you feel like you are "ease dropping," and yet, he's in the alley. Right outside the bar. If he wants privacy, at least get in your car. So I continued on my way, when I then heard him yell, "What? I can't hear you."
Now whether he was telling a man - who apparently is cheating with this guy's WIFE, to back off...or his girlfriend, with WHOM he is cheating with, I don't know. A friend said it was too bad I didn't linger longer and get more of the story. I replied, "I was cold, I didn't want to."
HOWEVER, if I was a smoker, or a "pretend" smoker (and a pretend smoker would have difficulties getting their cigarette lit, right?), I could have "innocently" hung out there, listening. Though, again, he's in the alley. I'm sure I wasn't the only one that heard parts of his conversation.
Thinking about this, if I was a "pretend" smoker, I could ... I wonder...how many men I could "reel" in. How many men would come up with a lighter or a match to "light" my cigarette. And then instead of actually smoking the beast (yes, the smoke itself is bad enough), I could just hold it out to my side while chatting with
"so and so." With the hopes that "so and so," is cute and... a non-smoker.
Just think the possibilities! Who knew??
Looking for my Dance Partner....
Sunday, March 25, 2012
Thursday, March 22, 2012
Wanna Read Me A Story - Booty Call Texting
Sex on the market? Has texting made "booty" calls easier and more accessible?
I have a friend who works at the library. A fella, a few years ago, got her number and made some contact with her. Nothing of real noteworthy, until one late night, sent her a text asking,
"Wanna come over and read me a story?"
How pathetic can one get?
I have a friend who works at the library. A fella, a few years ago, got her number and made some contact with her. Nothing of real noteworthy, until one late night, sent her a text asking,
"Wanna come over and read me a story?"
How pathetic can one get?
The "DO NOT ANSWER" Number
Cell phones and Texting have so very much run amuck within our dating life, that we ought to at least get to control them somehow. And so, if that fella has sent just one too many texts that are inappropriate or bothersome, it is time to change "his ' name' " in your phone to "DO NOT ANSWER." So that when a text comes in - because he will never actually call - you can see it and be reminded, "Do Not Answer," he is NOT worth any more of your time.
Tuesday, March 20, 2012
Oomph!
A year ago, a woman I met, though didn't know very well, told me that after this next year, she'd be looking to move as her daughter would have graduated high school and she didn't want to live here anymore, if she was going to be alone. "You know how it is, trying to date here," she said to me.
True, I do know how difficult it is trying to find a decent, hard working fella to even be interested in, here. And her comment hit hard. I got this cold chill - I still remember the feeling. I felt like someone had kicked me in the stomach, that I was going to be left behind.
A year later, I've looked at moving, I've highly considered moving, I've said I was going to move, moving near my sister feels right, yet my bags are not packed, my house is FAR from being ready to move (though I have cleaned some things out) -
I have also had a crush on - or found 6 men - to crush on. I know that 5 of them are not married, not certain about the 6th. Have gone out with one, though it wasn't a real date - he was my Dance Partner. I still have a crush on him, even though a friend says that my being over 10+ years older than him is too great a difference, and I haven't seen him in 2 weeks.
Really though, 6 men in less than a year. 6 men that I never noticed before. Or noticed in this manner. Or found out how interesting, or uninteresting, they were.
More so, the person - who can't find anyone to date here, will really be lucky to find someone to date. Period. High maintenance doesn't begin to describe her. More like narcissistic. Or as another put it, a Narcissistic Nut Job. It's all about her, and just about the time you get decide it isn't going to be all about her, the nut cracks, and for some reason your needs are included. Until, then, they aren't. And the nut cracks and rolls the other way. Back and forth.
Oomph! You simply can't compare. Just because one can't find love in the middle of the grocery store DOES NOT mean another cannot.
True, I do know how difficult it is trying to find a decent, hard working fella to even be interested in, here. And her comment hit hard. I got this cold chill - I still remember the feeling. I felt like someone had kicked me in the stomach, that I was going to be left behind.
A year later, I've looked at moving, I've highly considered moving, I've said I was going to move, moving near my sister feels right, yet my bags are not packed, my house is FAR from being ready to move (though I have cleaned some things out) -
I have also had a crush on - or found 6 men - to crush on. I know that 5 of them are not married, not certain about the 6th. Have gone out with one, though it wasn't a real date - he was my Dance Partner. I still have a crush on him, even though a friend says that my being over 10+ years older than him is too great a difference, and I haven't seen him in 2 weeks.
Really though, 6 men in less than a year. 6 men that I never noticed before. Or noticed in this manner. Or found out how interesting, or uninteresting, they were.
More so, the person - who can't find anyone to date here, will really be lucky to find someone to date. Period. High maintenance doesn't begin to describe her. More like narcissistic. Or as another put it, a Narcissistic Nut Job. It's all about her, and just about the time you get decide it isn't going to be all about her, the nut cracks, and for some reason your needs are included. Until, then, they aren't. And the nut cracks and rolls the other way. Back and forth.
Oomph! You simply can't compare. Just because one can't find love in the middle of the grocery store DOES NOT mean another cannot.
Sunday, March 18, 2012
Closing Time Reversal
Standing in a bar last night, close to midnight, on St. Patrick's Day, is truly the wrong time to show up at the bar - unless, I guess, you are there to pick someone up and go home. After all, they get better looking, more interesting, at closing time, right?
My girlfriend and I, stuck in the midst of the crowd, which way to go? Why are we here, again? Some people we know, others...nope, never seen them before. Some, we don't want to ever see.
We decide, "it really is time to go."
Before we can make our exist, a man - an older man - and an older married man is sitting 2' away from us on a bar stool. He has spoken "hello" to us. He has watched us for our 15 minutes in the bar. He asks us, "tell me, truly what is going on in your mind."
So we did. We said, "we are thinking it is time to go home."
The look in his face, in his eyes, priceless. Really. He wasn't expecting that. Furthermore, we were leaving, ALONE.
He had nothing left (thankfully) to say.
My girlfriend and I, stuck in the midst of the crowd, which way to go? Why are we here, again? Some people we know, others...nope, never seen them before. Some, we don't want to ever see.
We decide, "it really is time to go."
Before we can make our exist, a man - an older man - and an older married man is sitting 2' away from us on a bar stool. He has spoken "hello" to us. He has watched us for our 15 minutes in the bar. He asks us, "tell me, truly what is going on in your mind."
So we did. We said, "we are thinking it is time to go home."
The look in his face, in his eyes, priceless. Really. He wasn't expecting that. Furthermore, we were leaving, ALONE.
He had nothing left (thankfully) to say.
George. Children.
Children.
Turns out that George has 2 young children.
He doesn't seem them much, though from what I gather, when he does - he really does. He does things with them.
My girlfriend and I discussed the situation. More so, the man.
It was agreed that while the ex in any situation can play a huge role, it really does depend on the the person you are involved in. And whether or not they are good with, good at, relationships.
We discussed a past "love" who had children. This past love, in my book, is just not worth mentioning as a boyfriend. He couldn't stand up to his ex-wife, when she played control issues with him; when he is in a relationship, he doesn't see his child - and thus, when he doesn't have a relationship, he sees his child a lot. Basically, plainly, this guy needs to grow some balls. Not even be a man. Just be a PERSON.
There can be happiness, however, as a step-mom. As long as you are willing to be so.
And from what I've seen of George (not really a lot, though what I saw, I liked), what I've heard of George, I like. I think George has huge potential, children or not. And I'm more than pleased to know my girlfriend is willing to give it a go.
Turns out that George has 2 young children.
He doesn't seem them much, though from what I gather, when he does - he really does. He does things with them.
My girlfriend and I discussed the situation. More so, the man.
It was agreed that while the ex in any situation can play a huge role, it really does depend on the the person you are involved in. And whether or not they are good with, good at, relationships.
We discussed a past "love" who had children. This past love, in my book, is just not worth mentioning as a boyfriend. He couldn't stand up to his ex-wife, when she played control issues with him; when he is in a relationship, he doesn't see his child - and thus, when he doesn't have a relationship, he sees his child a lot. Basically, plainly, this guy needs to grow some balls. Not even be a man. Just be a PERSON.
There can be happiness, however, as a step-mom. As long as you are willing to be so.
And from what I've seen of George (not really a lot, though what I saw, I liked), what I've heard of George, I like. I think George has huge potential, children or not. And I'm more than pleased to know my girlfriend is willing to give it a go.
Dumbass.... Really is Stupid.
Have I written about him in this manner?
I don't know.
Set the bar too high?? Apparently so. Little did I know! Little did I know.
My girlfriend said, "had you hit on him at the bar, especially when you both had drank too much, no way would he have turned you down."
I replied, questioning, "so asking him to meet me for a beer was too hard?"
And she replied, "basically, yes."
Huh?
Upon pondering I stated, "I guess so. I guess that would mean he would have to talk to me, get to know me. Not that he can't talk, and that he can't be worthy of a conversation, that would be too much work? Too much invested, right?"
She said, "yes."
Wow.
I have another friend who tells me, "they see you. Independent, beautiful, smart, funny, and they are intimidated." HUH? They see that? in me? Furthermore, that intimidates them? Why? I thought that is what men wanted!
My former friend says, "put it this way: Dumbass can't handle the interestingness that is you; it might make him seem less interesting."
I note this, I bring this up because he is dating someone. She's nice enough, and occasionally attractive, however she isn't very lively. My friend said, the time I talked to her, she had basically nothing to say - BO-RING. And wow.... I certainly gave him more credit, thought he was what???? more worldly. Yes more worldly. (of course how would I know since I don't know him) Didn't realize he couldn't go past, well.... "go."
And it probably would make him less interesting. Dating me. Because seeing him, with her, makes him
seem
kind of boring.
And despite knowing this, realizing this, grasping this... I'm tired. Of. It. Them. I'm tired of seeing them together. Regardless of how long it will or will not last. I don't want to have any attraction to him, anymore. I don't.
I don't know.
Set the bar too high?? Apparently so. Little did I know! Little did I know.
My girlfriend said, "had you hit on him at the bar, especially when you both had drank too much, no way would he have turned you down."
I replied, questioning, "so asking him to meet me for a beer was too hard?"
And she replied, "basically, yes."
Huh?
Upon pondering I stated, "I guess so. I guess that would mean he would have to talk to me, get to know me. Not that he can't talk, and that he can't be worthy of a conversation, that would be too much work? Too much invested, right?"
She said, "yes."
Wow.
I have another friend who tells me, "they see you. Independent, beautiful, smart, funny, and they are intimidated." HUH? They see that? in me? Furthermore, that intimidates them? Why? I thought that is what men wanted!
My former friend says, "put it this way: Dumbass can't handle the interestingness that is you; it might make him seem less interesting."
I note this, I bring this up because he is dating someone. She's nice enough, and occasionally attractive, however she isn't very lively. My friend said, the time I talked to her, she had basically nothing to say - BO-RING. And wow.... I certainly gave him more credit, thought he was what???? more worldly. Yes more worldly. (of course how would I know since I don't know him) Didn't realize he couldn't go past, well.... "go."
And it probably would make him less interesting. Dating me. Because seeing him, with her, makes him
seem
kind of boring.
And despite knowing this, realizing this, grasping this... I'm tired. Of. It. Them. I'm tired of seeing them together. Regardless of how long it will or will not last. I don't want to have any attraction to him, anymore. I don't.
Saturday, March 17, 2012
Really! No.
Really, sending me a text message of your junk, is not impressive.
It doesn't excite me.
It's great that you have some, and while it appears that it works, the picture just isn't doing anything for me.
Really, no.
Sending me that picture with some girl's junk,
and telling me what you want to do with me.
Really?
No. Please don't.
Honestly, it doesn't turn me on.
It is, vulgar.
To say the very least.
Who do you think I am?
Oh wait, that's right, you don't know who I am, do you?
We haven't actually met.
Or maybe we did, briefly. The other night. Yes, I remember you now.
You were cute.
You were interesting.
Then.
Now, Really! No.
I want nothing to do with you.
Please, stop sending me those pictures.
Really, I don't know how to respond.
Really! No.
It doesn't excite me.
It's great that you have some, and while it appears that it works, the picture just isn't doing anything for me.
Really, no.
Sending me that picture with some girl's junk,
and telling me what you want to do with me.
Really?
No. Please don't.
Honestly, it doesn't turn me on.
It is, vulgar.
To say the very least.
Who do you think I am?
Oh wait, that's right, you don't know who I am, do you?
We haven't actually met.
Or maybe we did, briefly. The other night. Yes, I remember you now.
You were cute.
You were interesting.
Then.
Now, Really! No.
I want nothing to do with you.
Please, stop sending me those pictures.
Really, I don't know how to respond.
Really! No.
Friday, March 16, 2012
No, Damn it.... You may have my cell phone number, you may not text me!
Damn it. I hate it. I do. Dating was hard enough in the "old" days, now with the "ease" of texting it makes each of us a little "less" than a real person.
You may have my number, if I find you attractive, think you are maybe trustworthy and you ask for it. However, I am not giving you any approval or "go ahead" to text me. Texting is reserved for my family, my friends, and should we become something MORE than what we are right now, then you'll get the approval. Though truly, that is NOT going to happen until probably you meet my family. At least.
Don't think texting me every so often "hey... how's it going?" is going to work. Nope. You want to get to know me, you call me up and you ask me out. You want to see how I'm doing after a date, you call me up and ask me. You wonder what I do when I'm not with you, you call me up and ask me out. You get to know me, the old fashioned way. The way you do it with your buddies. The way you do it with your children, should you have any. Or your parents, or your siblings. You do not text me, per chance I'll respond. That isn't cool. That's lame.
Furthermore, don't even consider sending me a "sexually suggesting" text or picture of a bed with "you and me" in the text - especially if we are not dating. It isn't that I'm a prude, it is that I have class. And that is .... wrong on a level that makes me speechless. If you are that tactless, please do us both a favor, get the hell out of my life. And DO NOT come back. I don't care if you have nice parents, I don't care if you have nice friends, they apparently do not know you.
Same friend that I've discussed texting and dating with, again, shared tonight of some fella she met recently. They exchanged numbers. This week, he texted her. Randomly. Asked her how she was. She said, "I felt rude not answering." She also said, "why did he text? I answered and he texted a little more and then that was it."
I responded to her. I said: 1) as easy as it is to text - I can text 10 people at the same time - no offense, he is probably texting 10 girls at the same time to see who will respond. It's comparable to "in the old days," when a fella would be dating you every 10 days or so - and the reason for that was, he was dating other women. Seeing who caught his fancy the most. NOW, with texting, and because "we" (as people, not just girls, not just single people - ALL people) allow it, men don't have to take us out, necessarily. They can just text us and see who responds and who responds with the most "provocative" comeback to catch their fancy. 2) Again, and I mean no offense, he probably ... doesn't really remember who you are. And by texting, he doesn't exactly have to. I can't really explain that - other than unless something changes that makes him WANT to know you better, by texting and having people (girls) respond, he can keep you on the hook without having a lot invested. I truly believe that if he said, "lets meet at ..... at 6," he wouldn't necessarily know IF you were there. He may see you and think "she looks familiar" and maybe approach you - hell he might even text you and say "are you here? it's crowded" and because we are "nice and polite," we would respond, "ya, I'm over here...by the window in the red sweater." Because texting can be so impersonal. And because people are willing to communicate that way. 3) Texting really is the easiest of easy. Get shot down via texting - hell you don't even have to acknowledge that you got the text when YOU did - and NO one has to know about it. 4) I realized then and there, that with my next relationship, texting will NOT be on the table. Yep, there is that "thrill" and feelings of "connection" when your day sucks and you want to "connect" with someone and "ding dong," a text comes in.
TEXTING has gotten out of control.
And so, yes, you may have my number. It is my cell phone number. You may not text me, as I like a fella's voice and it makes the person on the other end "more human." You can text me, only after, you are paying for my cell service.
You may have my number, if I find you attractive, think you are maybe trustworthy and you ask for it. However, I am not giving you any approval or "go ahead" to text me. Texting is reserved for my family, my friends, and should we become something MORE than what we are right now, then you'll get the approval. Though truly, that is NOT going to happen until probably you meet my family. At least.
Don't think texting me every so often "hey... how's it going?" is going to work. Nope. You want to get to know me, you call me up and you ask me out. You want to see how I'm doing after a date, you call me up and ask me. You wonder what I do when I'm not with you, you call me up and ask me out. You get to know me, the old fashioned way. The way you do it with your buddies. The way you do it with your children, should you have any. Or your parents, or your siblings. You do not text me, per chance I'll respond. That isn't cool. That's lame.
Furthermore, don't even consider sending me a "sexually suggesting" text or picture of a bed with "you and me" in the text - especially if we are not dating. It isn't that I'm a prude, it is that I have class. And that is .... wrong on a level that makes me speechless. If you are that tactless, please do us both a favor, get the hell out of my life. And DO NOT come back. I don't care if you have nice parents, I don't care if you have nice friends, they apparently do not know you.
Same friend that I've discussed texting and dating with, again, shared tonight of some fella she met recently. They exchanged numbers. This week, he texted her. Randomly. Asked her how she was. She said, "I felt rude not answering." She also said, "why did he text? I answered and he texted a little more and then that was it."
I responded to her. I said: 1) as easy as it is to text - I can text 10 people at the same time - no offense, he is probably texting 10 girls at the same time to see who will respond. It's comparable to "in the old days," when a fella would be dating you every 10 days or so - and the reason for that was, he was dating other women. Seeing who caught his fancy the most. NOW, with texting, and because "we" (as people, not just girls, not just single people - ALL people) allow it, men don't have to take us out, necessarily. They can just text us and see who responds and who responds with the most "provocative" comeback to catch their fancy. 2) Again, and I mean no offense, he probably ... doesn't really remember who you are. And by texting, he doesn't exactly have to. I can't really explain that - other than unless something changes that makes him WANT to know you better, by texting and having people (girls) respond, he can keep you on the hook without having a lot invested. I truly believe that if he said, "lets meet at ..... at 6," he wouldn't necessarily know IF you were there. He may see you and think "she looks familiar" and maybe approach you - hell he might even text you and say "are you here? it's crowded" and because we are "nice and polite," we would respond, "ya, I'm over here...by the window in the red sweater." Because texting can be so impersonal. And because people are willing to communicate that way. 3) Texting really is the easiest of easy. Get shot down via texting - hell you don't even have to acknowledge that you got the text when YOU did - and NO one has to know about it. 4) I realized then and there, that with my next relationship, texting will NOT be on the table. Yep, there is that "thrill" and feelings of "connection" when your day sucks and you want to "connect" with someone and "ding dong," a text comes in.
TEXTING has gotten out of control.
And so, yes, you may have my number. It is my cell phone number. You may not text me, as I like a fella's voice and it makes the person on the other end "more human." You can text me, only after, you are paying for my cell service.
Flip Side Baggage
On the flip side, it would appear that some men do enjoy the baggage that women carry - I certainly don't mean in weight, though there is those that do enjoy that.
What I mean is that some men are attracted to women that have ... bring with them... a lot of drama. Women with drama in their lives are the equivalant to the "bad boy."
Men find such women interesting, entertaining, until, well, they don't. Until the headache of it all becomes too much. Or a headache.
And as a friend put it, men who are attracted to such women, don't have to put much into the relatioship. The men, themselves, can either be boring, just not into a "real" relationship - one that requires work and dedication, growth; lack interest and thus it doesn't matter because some woman is creating too much drama to notice.
I recently noticed that certain men may get involved with women who have children so that when the women want more out of the relationship, the men can then use "that' against them. They can't get married, can't commit, because they don't want children. It's okay to be involved until the woman wants a commitment and then they must use something for the escape route.
Whether it be children, or "you have too much drama," or "too much baggage," when the truth of the matter is, HE just doesn't want a relationship. It has nothing to do with the actual woman and "her baggage."
Case in point - I have a friend who met a cute fella this past summer. She wasn't all that into him, he was from out of town. They dated for the week or two that he was in town and had a "fling." They saw each other for a couple months, whenever he was "in town," or passing through town. She "ended" it so, to speak a few months ago when really that isn't what she wants. She doesn't want a "fling."
When she ended it, he said, "yes, he wasn't home enough to have a real relationship" yet he wished she lived closer so he could have a 'bed buddy.'
She told me, if they lived close enough to where he could have a regular 'bed buddy,' it still wouldn't work out because she wants a real relationship.
I commented that he doesn't want the relationship part; I'm sure there is someone that lives close enough to him for a relationship. Even if you aren't home a lot, you can still have a relationship. The only thing missing between a "regular bed buddy" and a relationship is wanting the relationship.
What I mean is that some men are attracted to women that have ... bring with them... a lot of drama. Women with drama in their lives are the equivalant to the "bad boy."
Men find such women interesting, entertaining, until, well, they don't. Until the headache of it all becomes too much. Or a headache.
And as a friend put it, men who are attracted to such women, don't have to put much into the relatioship. The men, themselves, can either be boring, just not into a "real" relationship - one that requires work and dedication, growth; lack interest and thus it doesn't matter because some woman is creating too much drama to notice.
I recently noticed that certain men may get involved with women who have children so that when the women want more out of the relationship, the men can then use "that' against them. They can't get married, can't commit, because they don't want children. It's okay to be involved until the woman wants a commitment and then they must use something for the escape route.
Whether it be children, or "you have too much drama," or "too much baggage," when the truth of the matter is, HE just doesn't want a relationship. It has nothing to do with the actual woman and "her baggage."
Case in point - I have a friend who met a cute fella this past summer. She wasn't all that into him, he was from out of town. They dated for the week or two that he was in town and had a "fling." They saw each other for a couple months, whenever he was "in town," or passing through town. She "ended" it so, to speak a few months ago when really that isn't what she wants. She doesn't want a "fling."
When she ended it, he said, "yes, he wasn't home enough to have a real relationship" yet he wished she lived closer so he could have a 'bed buddy.'
She told me, if they lived close enough to where he could have a regular 'bed buddy,' it still wouldn't work out because she wants a real relationship.
I commented that he doesn't want the relationship part; I'm sure there is someone that lives close enough to him for a relationship. Even if you aren't home a lot, you can still have a relationship. The only thing missing between a "regular bed buddy" and a relationship is wanting the relationship.
Thursday, March 15, 2012
BAGGAGE!
I understand what people are saying when they don't want "baggage" in a relationship; though the truth of the matter is, we all have baggage of some kind. Find yourself a person without it, and I seriously doubt you'll find a person.
Hell, even a dog, has baggage.
Just this past week, a friend of mine met a rather good looking, working, fella. He likes to dance and CAN dance; he took her to dinner, took her hiking, and maybe...just maybe, he will call this week, as he said he would.
Two issues, though, have surfaced. The first, I don't understand very well - I just know that it has to do with past baggage of her's that she has no control over. It isn't that she hasn't - or isn't trying - to move on from; it's that the person with whom she was involved with, may "act" up finding out that she is moving on.
The other issue, that stumbled me, is that he has children.
Given his age, I wonder - how many children? was he married to the mother of his children? or is it mothers? I absolutely hate having to wonder these things.
When I was first divorced (no children), I was more willing to be a step-mom. Ah, I'm still willing. However, my friend is not as old as I am - and she is looking for a truly significant relationship and frankly, as her friend, I don't want her to have to deal with "children" from a previous relationship (or relationships). I don't.
There will be enough baggage on both sides, without children.
Harsh of me? perhaps, given that I love children and would embrace the possibility of my own, should I remarry someone that wants children. Perhaps, given that I would embrace someone elses children, as my own.
Harsh of me? considering that men have told me how they don't want to deal with "drama," or "baggage," and yet, don't they ....by their mere existance, carry it with them? You don't get to 35 years of age without "some" baggage.
If you don't want baggage, live alone. And don't come out.
Hell, even a dog, has baggage.
Just this past week, a friend of mine met a rather good looking, working, fella. He likes to dance and CAN dance; he took her to dinner, took her hiking, and maybe...just maybe, he will call this week, as he said he would.
Two issues, though, have surfaced. The first, I don't understand very well - I just know that it has to do with past baggage of her's that she has no control over. It isn't that she hasn't - or isn't trying - to move on from; it's that the person with whom she was involved with, may "act" up finding out that she is moving on.
The other issue, that stumbled me, is that he has children.
Given his age, I wonder - how many children? was he married to the mother of his children? or is it mothers? I absolutely hate having to wonder these things.
When I was first divorced (no children), I was more willing to be a step-mom. Ah, I'm still willing. However, my friend is not as old as I am - and she is looking for a truly significant relationship and frankly, as her friend, I don't want her to have to deal with "children" from a previous relationship (or relationships). I don't.
There will be enough baggage on both sides, without children.
Harsh of me? perhaps, given that I love children and would embrace the possibility of my own, should I remarry someone that wants children. Perhaps, given that I would embrace someone elses children, as my own.
Harsh of me? considering that men have told me how they don't want to deal with "drama," or "baggage," and yet, don't they ....by their mere existance, carry it with them? You don't get to 35 years of age without "some" baggage.
If you don't want baggage, live alone. And don't come out.
Monday, March 12, 2012
A Week Later
Turns out, a week later, my friend meets a Brittish man, travelling through town.
While she's out on the dance floor with Andrew (fitting name, yes? for this Brittish man), who shows up - somewhate like a flea to a dog - was Birch. Didn't speak to my friend, just stood on the sidelines and watched. Watched her dance with Andrew, watched her flirt and talk to Andrew.
One humorously wonders, did it pass by Birch's thoughts - "gee, she got over me rather quickly?" or in his possible arrogance, was it "She's masking her pain...she's found someone from out of town to flirt with?" May one ever know?
After my friend introduces Andrew to Birch, Birch leaves rather suddenly. Frantically texting.
While she's out on the dance floor with Andrew (fitting name, yes? for this Brittish man), who shows up - somewhate like a flea to a dog - was Birch. Didn't speak to my friend, just stood on the sidelines and watched. Watched her dance with Andrew, watched her flirt and talk to Andrew.
One humorously wonders, did it pass by Birch's thoughts - "gee, she got over me rather quickly?" or in his possible arrogance, was it "She's masking her pain...she's found someone from out of town to flirt with?" May one ever know?
After my friend introduces Andrew to Birch, Birch leaves rather suddenly. Frantically texting.
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