BLINK!

And so out of no where....out of the blue, an  older married-man friend of mine tells me that he realized a few months ago, that his feelings for me, are more than "just friends."

Oh....okay.  I did not see THAT coming.

He doesn't want to hurt his wife.  (later, and still...since... every time I hear these words in my mind, I'm thinking "what the hell?" )

BLINK....BLINKBLINKBLINK. BLINK.

Even if I had feelings for him, feelings that extended past "mere friendship," which I do not, he IS married.  And I value that. 

BLINK....BLINKITY BLINK BLINK.... BLINK.
He asked that I keep an open  mind.

I am wondering, about what?  About  a relationship between us?
Knowing him, the little, really that I do, I'm thinking he means to keep an open mind at the possibility of this becoming a reality.  That a loving, intimate relationship could really come between us.

I know that I responded that I was flattered that he found me attractive, that I would try not to hurt him (and thus, won't be discussing my male desires for others, to him; nor will I, at the moment, discuss my plans of moving - without him), and that really, his relationship with his wife - HIS MARRIAGE was very important to me.

I  need to tell him though, that really, there is nothing that is going to happen between us.  ASIDE from the fact that HE IS MARRIED, I do not have any romantic ~ or even a crush ~ feelings for him.   I like him, I enjoy him, and that is it. 

And really, now I do want to limit my time with him because I cannot return his feelings.  Not now, and not even if he is ...all of a sudden...single. 

I'm sorry, I am not interested.

BLINK.

Tag Team Dating

Last weekend, while out dancing, I came across an older gentleman.
He is nice looking, appears to be stable and worthy of a nice lady.
I don't know that I'm that lady, mainly because of the age.  There is probably a 30 year difference.
Though I must admit, not too long ago, I was considering dating someone who is similiar in the age range as this man.  However I know this man a bit better and enjoy his company.
It does depend on enjoying the person's personality.  Not that I've just realized this.
Anyways, a girlfriend of mine told me recently (and I thought "she's my MOM's Daughter") that unless their give her the "weird" vibe, she goes out with whoever asks her.
And then a nice fella asked her, and she admitted to me...she hedged around it as she believes she is recovering from a bad break.  Though she did go out with the guy.
I told her, this guy would be more perfect for my mom.  Similiar in age, my mom likes to dance, she's funny and holds a good conversation.
My friend responded, that is a reason to go out with a guy, because he may be perfect for someone you know (if not for you)!