Dang it...Can't Get My Cigarette to Light....

There are times, I think, it would pay to be a smoker - ya, who knew?  Or at least a pretend smoker, one that was having problems getting her cigarette to light!

A case in point - the other night as I was leaving the bar, leaving my girlfriend's birthday party, I overheard a man on his cell phone.  Outside.  He said something to the fact of, "do not EVER send my wife another text message like that again, or I'll...."  Unfortunately I didn't hear the rest.  I kind of didn't want to, and it is times like that you feel like you are "ease dropping," and yet, he's in the alley.  Right outside the bar.  If he wants privacy, at least get in your car.  So I continued on my way, when I then heard him yell, "What?  I can't hear you."

Now whether he was telling a man - who apparently is cheating with this guy's WIFE, to back off...or his girlfriend, with WHOM he is cheating with, I don't know.  A friend said it was too bad I didn't linger longer and get more of the story.  I replied, "I was cold, I didn't want to."

HOWEVER, if I was a smoker, or a "pretend" smoker (and a pretend smoker would have difficulties getting their cigarette lit, right?), I could have "innocently" hung out there, listening.  Though, again, he's in the alley.  I'm sure I wasn't the only one that heard parts of his conversation.

Thinking about this, if I was a "pretend" smoker, I could ... I wonder...how many men I could "reel" in.  How many men would come up with a lighter or a match to "light" my cigarette.  And then instead of actually smoking the beast (yes, the smoke itself is bad enough), I could just hold it out to my side while chatting with
"so and so."  With the hopes that "so and so," is cute and... a non-smoker.

Just think the possibilities!  Who knew??

Wanna Read Me A Story - Booty Call Texting

Sex on the market? Has texting made "booty" calls easier and more accessible? 


I have a friend who works at the library.   A fella, a few years ago, got her number and made some contact with her.  Nothing of real noteworthy, until one late night, sent her a text asking,


"Wanna come over and read me a story?"







How pathetic can one get?

The "DO NOT ANSWER" Number

Cell phones and Texting have so very much run amuck within our dating life, that we ought to at least get to control them somehow.  And so, if that fella has sent just one too many texts that are inappropriate or bothersome, it is time to change "his ' name' " in your phone to "DO NOT ANSWER."  So that when a text comes in - because he will never actually call - you can see it and be reminded, "Do Not Answer," he is NOT worth any more of your time.

Oomph!

A year ago, a woman I met, though didn't know very well, told me that after this next year, she'd be looking to move as her daughter would have graduated high school and she didn't want to live here anymore, if she was going to be alone.  "You know how it is, trying to date here," she said to me.

True, I do know how difficult it is trying to find a decent, hard working fella to even be interested in, here.  And her comment hit hard.  I got this cold chill - I still remember the feeling.  I felt like someone had kicked me in the stomach, that I was going to be left behind.

A year later, I've looked at moving, I've highly considered moving, I've said I was going to move, moving near my sister feels right, yet my bags are not packed, my  house is FAR from being ready to move (though I have cleaned some things out) -

I have also had a crush on - or found 6 men - to crush on.  I know that 5 of them are not married, not certain about the 6th.  Have gone out with one, though it wasn't a real date - he was my Dance Partner.  I still have a crush on him, even though a friend says that my being over 10+ years older than him is too great a difference, and I haven't seen him in 2 weeks.

Really though, 6 men in less than a year.  6 men that I never noticed before.  Or noticed in this manner.  Or found out how interesting, or uninteresting, they were.

More so, the person - who can't find anyone to date here, will really be lucky to find someone to date.  Period.  High maintenance doesn't begin to describe her.  More like narcissistic.  Or as another put it, a Narcissistic Nut Job. It's all about her, and just about the time you get decide it isn't going to be all about her, the nut cracks, and for some reason your needs are included.  Until, then, they aren't.  And the nut cracks and rolls the other way.  Back and forth.

Oomph!  You simply can't compare.  Just because one can't find love in the middle of the grocery store DOES NOT mean another cannot.  

Closing Time Reversal

Standing in a bar last night, close to midnight, on St. Patrick's Day, is truly the wrong time to show up at the bar - unless, I guess, you are there to pick someone up and go home.  After all, they get better looking, more interesting, at closing time, right?


My girlfriend and I, stuck in the midst of the crowd, which way to go? Why are we here, again?  Some people we know, others...nope, never seen them before.  Some, we don't want to ever see.


We decide, "it really is time to go."


Before we can make our exist, a man - an older man - and an older married man is sitting 2' away from us on a bar stool. He has spoken "hello" to us.  He has watched us for our 15 minutes in the bar.  He asks us, "tell me, truly what is going on in your mind."


So we did. We said, "we are thinking it is time to go home."


The look in his face, in his eyes, priceless.  Really.  He wasn't expecting that.  Furthermore, we were leaving, ALONE.  


He had nothing left (thankfully) to say.

George. Children.

Children.
Turns out that George has 2 young children.
He doesn't seem them much, though from what I gather, when he does - he really does.  He does things with them.
My girlfriend and I discussed the situation.  More so, the man.
It was agreed that while the ex in any situation can play a huge role, it really does depend on the the person you are involved in.  And whether or not they are good with, good at, relationships.

We discussed a past "love" who had children.  This past love, in my book, is just not worth mentioning as a boyfriend.  He couldn't stand up to his ex-wife, when she played control issues with him; when he is in a relationship, he doesn't see his child - and thus, when he doesn't have a relationship, he sees his child a lot.  Basically, plainly, this guy needs to grow some balls.  Not even be a man.  Just be a PERSON.


There can be happiness, however, as a step-mom.  As long as you are willing to be so.


And from what I've seen of George (not really a lot, though what I saw, I liked), what I've heard of George, I like.  I think George has huge potential, children or not.  And I'm more than pleased to know my girlfriend is willing to give it a go.

Dumbass.... Really is Stupid.

Have I written about him in this manner?

I don't know.

Set the bar too high??  Apparently so.  Little did I know!  Little did I know.

My girlfriend said, "had you hit on him at the bar, especially when you both had drank too much, no way would he have turned you down."

I replied, questioning, "so asking him to meet me for a beer was too hard?"

And she replied, "basically, yes."

Huh?

Upon pondering I stated, "I guess so.  I guess that would mean he would have to talk to me, get to know me.  Not that he can't talk, and that he can't be worthy of a conversation, that would be too much work?  Too much invested, right?"

She said, "yes."

Wow.

I have another friend who tells me, "they see you.  Independent, beautiful, smart, funny, and they are intimidated."  HUH?  They see that? in me?  Furthermore, that intimidates them?  Why? I thought that is what men wanted!

My former friend says, "put it this way:  Dumbass can't handle the interestingness that is you; it might make him seem less interesting."

I note this, I bring this up because he is dating someone.  She's nice enough, and occasionally attractive, however she isn't very lively.  My friend said, the time I talked to her, she had basically nothing to say - BO-RING.  And wow.... I certainly gave him more credit, thought he was what???? more worldly.  Yes more worldly.  (of course how would I know since I don't know him)  Didn't realize he couldn't go past, well.... "go." 


And it probably would make him less interesting.  Dating me.  Because seeing him, with her, makes him
seem
kind of boring.


And despite knowing this, realizing this, grasping this... I'm tired. Of. It. Them. I'm tired of seeing them together.  Regardless of how long it will or will not last.  I don't want to have any attraction to him, anymore. I don't.